Getting more dates and meeting more guys is simple: Step out of your comfort zone and practice your dating skills! In this post, I will share my first secret on how to meet (and date!) more guys.
Here’s the truth: Your soulmate is not going to knock on your door and ask you to marry you. You must leave the house and meet more guys to get more dates.
It takes time to meet new men, and it can be incredibly frustrating if you show up to numerous events and no one ever approaches you or asks for your number. This is where skills become handy. It is not enough to show up, you’ve got to “get your flirt on,” and be strategic when approaching the world of potential love candidates.
Major Mistakes That Women Make…
Many women make the mistake of thinking that if a guy is talking to her, he is interested in her. Unfortunately, some men will enjoying talking with you but have no intention of going on a date. They are feeding their ego or passing the time. A guy might enjoy what you have to say but isn’t interested in a relationship. Of course, not all men are like this.
Please don’t try to figure “bad boys” out. Don’t waste your valuable time and emotional energy debating with your girlfriends about why one did not call you or ask for your number at a party. Bad boy behavior is indicative of two things: his mode of operation and lack of maturity. It has no bearing on your attractiveness or self-worth. This type of guy treats many women this way, not just you. Simply try to avoid this type.
What’s the Solution?
When you are at a large social gathering and there are many single men to meet in a short period of time, spend 5 to 20 minutes max talking to one guy.
At this point, it’s a numbers game. Your goal is to meet at least 2-3 guys for every hour of a social gathering. Following this guide increases your chances of getting a first date.
A Skill to Meet More Men
After you’ve spoken with a man you like and you are ready to end the conversation, first compliment him on something he said. For example, “I really enjoyed your views on ‘X,’” or, “I thought how you said ‘Y’ was very amusing.” Follow up with, “Listen, I have to run. I see a couple of friends I was supposed to meet at this party and need to go talk to them for a while. But I am really intrigued by what you had to say about ‘Y’. Would you like to get coffee this weekend and talk about it more? Here is my number.”
Write it on a sheet of paper and hand it to him. Smile, make eye contact one more time and slightly touch his hand as you give him the sheet of paper. Then walk away.
What Will Happen?
A couple of things could happen: He will be shocked you ended a good conversation, or he will be happy you complimented him. He will wonder whether you asked him on a date or if this is a friend thing. You increased his oxytocin, the hormone necessary to feel a deeper connection. I slipped a little science in there!
A Bit of science…
See, when you stare directly into his eyes and touch him slightly, the physical body reacts by producing more oxytocin, increasing his ability to feel stronger love and connections. It won’t make him like you if he does not already find you interesting, but if he does, this will increase his attraction to you.
You also clearly stated that friends are important to you and you value a conversation with a new guy less than your established friendships. This is a healthy sign that will repel toxic guys. But what if he doesn’t want your number?
In Summary…
Most men will be polite, take your number, and just not call if they are not interested. If a man actually verbalizes, “no thanks,” then he was REALLY WASTING YOUR TIME. He lacks empathy and would be horrible to date. Either way, if he does not call you, at least you found out immediately who he is, instead of wasting an entire evening talking to him and missing out on the opportunity to meet other men at the party.
Do you have any questions?
Ask me anytime…
Xo,
Emily