Today, I want to share my personal story of how I found love.
I have not always been a love expert. Before I launched my program to help men and women find love and sustain healthy, soulmate relationships, I struggled to find love for myself. I overcame many obstacles to find my husband, and there were many painful moments along the way, but what I learned changed my life forever.
Career was My Primary Focus…
In my early twenties, I wanted to take over the world. I had so many ambitions, and my career was my primary focus. I put every ounce of emotional energy into establishing myself professionally. In my mind, I wanted the same respect as a man and pushed myself to excel in male-dominated fields.
My undergraduate degree was Mechanical Engineering. I started my career in software start-up sales. After getting my MBA from Berkeley University, I transitioned to the energy industry.
At the height of my career, I was running a $2B product line for General Electric providing emergency energy products for communities that had suffered a natural disaster. I was literally giving power to the world. Power was my essence.
My Love Life was a Disaster
I had a lot of success in my career life, but my love life was going nowhere. Sure, I had dates, and men found me attractive. My problem, or at least my perception of it, was that I was too much for a guy. I intimidated men.
One of my friends once told me once that I needed to respect my guy and make him feel powerful in the relationship. It felt like a contradiction to me. Why should I give up my power to fall in love? Why should I become less of who I am, just to be accepted? Her advice did not sit well with my values, and I could not imagine rejecting myself to be loved. It was not an option for me.
I started asking my friends who were happily married how they found love. Their responses were not that helpful. They said that it was easy to find their soulmates. They knew that their husband was the one from the first date.
Dating Woes
- I went on dates with decent men, but they seemed boring to me.
- I went on dates with men I was physically attracted to, but I could not see the future with them.
- With others, I felt connected emotionally but not physically.
If I was lucky and felt a connection on both emotional and physical levels, the relationship turned out to be chaotic and fast-paced. It looked and felt like a roller coaster.
I wanted to find a soulmate love where we deeply trusted and respected each other. The man I desperately desired could be my rock with whom I could build my life upon. I wanted to end up with a man with whom I could share my darkest secrets and still feel loved and safe. Of course, I wanted to have a hot sex life, too!
At age 36; however, I knew I had a problem. I spent 20 years dating and still had no clue what I was doing wrong.
Why Am I Not Married?
What specifically do I need to do to create love in my life? What do I do to find love?
I saw my friends getting married and pregnant and fulfilling their dreams while my dates kept getting worse and worse. It was like the universe was telling me to give up; that there was no one out there for me.
Fortunately, my scientific mind said, “no.” There has got to be a reason why some people find love, and others don’t. If I wanted to have children, I needed to figure this out immediately.
My Transformation Began…
There is one major part of the story that I have not told you about, yet. In my early twenties, I was raped, sexually assaulted, and sexually harassed at work by different men. These experiences really messed me up inside. I turned off parts of myself and relied on fear to protect me and keep me safe.
As a part of my transformation, I decided to face my fears and found a bad-ass therapist named Jennifer. She helped me understand what was holding me back. I threw myself into my healing process, thoroughly studying psychology, and physiology to learn how love worked.
What I learned changed my life forever, and it became the basis of my course.
And My Life has Changed…
I met my husband about halfway through my transformation. He helped me complete the journey. The way that my husband loves me and the depth that we communicate goes beyond all my expectations of love. Every day, I am excited to wake up and spend the rest of my life with him. When my son Ryan was born, I truly felt incredibly blessed and happy.
I felt a calling, almost an obligation, to share what I learned with others. I wanted a woman, who had suffered like me, to experience this level of joy. As I started working with clients, I noticed they also experienced a great sense of relief when they understood that what was holding them back was not their fault. Their struggle was with a lack of knowledge about how loved works.
Finding Love is a Skill
Frankly, I think this information should be taught at school. Everyone deserves to know it. The skills I teach are essential to any type of relationship but are especially important in being able to create the soulmate connection we all yearn for.
I hope my story inspires you. Not finding love is not your fault. I am so excited to share with you the facts of how love works that can help you find “the one.” I have simplified the science so that it is easy to understand and absorb. My program provides an action plan that you can start applying to your life today to find the love you most deeply desire.
My Program and Webinars to Find Love
I am going to share interesting facts and advice in upcoming blog posts. In the meantime, you are more than welcome to check out my program and free webinars.
Many people feel a great sense of relief and happiness after taking my course because they have mastered their emotions. They also learn how to cope with complicated situations. They understand how to share their needs and work through conflict in a way that strengthens relationships.
Take care. I am looking forward to helping you with your search!
Xo,
Emily